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TAKE ACTION AND DEAL WITH THE SITUATION

WE STILL TALKING ABOUT TOXIC FRIENDSHIP

-Realize there’s toxicity in the relationship.

This is the first step to getting rid of the poison in your life.

-Take responsibility for the friendship and how it makes you feel. If you continue with it, not only are you allowing your friend to hurt you but you’ are also hurting yourself.

Set boundaries, stop pleasing your toxic friend and learn to say no

Ask your true friends and people you trust for their opinion.

end the friendship- you are better of your own .

IS YOUR FRIENDSHIP GOING DOWN THE DRAIN?

1. -LIES TO YOU ALL THE TIME

2. -TALKS ABOUT YOU BEHIND YOUR BACK

3. -TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOU AND ALWAYS TAKES MORE THAN HE/ SHE’ WILLING TO GIVE.

4. -CONSTANTLY CRITICISES YOU AND YOUR APPEARANCE

5. -MAKES PROMISES HE/ SHE DOES’T KEEP

6. -DEMANDS ALL OF YOUR TIME, IS CLINGY AND VERY DEPENDENT ON YOU

7. FLIRTS WITH YOUR PARTINER

8. IS A bully AND ALWAYS WANT YOU TO DO THINGS HIS/HER WAY

9. WANTS TO KNOW ABOUT YOUR PERSONAL BUSINESS BUT NEVER SHARES HIS/ HERS.

10. IS JEALOUSE OF YOU AND YOUR achievement..

11. CAN’T MAINTAIN HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

12. TRIES TO GET YOU INVOLVED IN ILLEGAL ACTIVITIES OR DOING DRUGS

13. IS ALWAYS NEGATIVE ABOUT YOUR IDEAS .

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TOXIC FRIENDSHIP

-We all need friendship, but some come with extra baggage and can be harmful to our well- being here’s what to watch out for.

THE TRUTH IS WE ALL NEED FRIENDS

Human being are creature of companionship and having friends helps us feel good about ourselves.

But unfortunately some friends have the opposite effect .

JEALOUSY MAKES YOU NASTY

Wetness from law student in one of university of SA says she had many toxic friends in her life and one of them she shared with her all plans and goals, but she always discourage her.

She had negative opinions about everything , she held that, I want to-do whether, it was a job application or taking time off to study. Overseas. She would convince me otherwise.

Initially I thought she had my best interests at heart. But I was wrong. She didn’t want me to progress.

She only wanted me to hug up and be where she was.

She was holding me back from my goals and dreams.

This is one example of toxic friend.

Better to delete the details and contacts of friend who is like this .some it’s not easy but no other alternative

To stay nonviolent merely to create your own choice.

You can watch out to find another friend but not willing to listen to the people who is too rapid to give you his/hers opinions.

FRIENDRY POISON

One psychologist explains that a toxic friend is someone who essentially makes more withdrawals in a camaraderie than speculations.

The victim in the friendship is left feeling negative most of the time and the friendship doesn’t encourage a healthy self- esteem for either of the parties involved.

She says toxic friends also make you feel emotionally drained because they demand a lot of your attention

They create a sense of agitation with the relationship and they are constantly critical.

Other factors to look out for would be so-called friends who try to compete with you because they feel they’re better then you, those who are highly jealous of everything you do and those who betray you on a regular basis.

According to psychologist ALEXS ending a toxic friendship invariably depends on the nature of the relationship.

If you have been friends with a person for a number of years, it becomes more difficult to separate yourself from him or her.

But bottom line is the victim needs to set boundaries and not allow anything that makes them unhappy to carry on any further .

The only solution to ending a toxic friendship is to put your foot down and say “No’’ or it’s over.

It’s not easy, but there’s no subtle way to end a friendship with a toxic individuals.

JOINED AT THE FASHIONABLE

Another psychologist says toxic friendships often develop when two people become dependent on each other for either acceptance or recognition .

Even thought a toxic friend my lead the victim into situations they shouldn’t be in and cause them grief or pain, the victim still wants the friendship and doesn’t see the negative things.

The victim feels a strong connection and a sense of need. This makes it hard for them to get out.

OUR FINALE TO THE GOOD FRIEND

He should respect personal boundaries, says Alexis. A simple example is that a toxic individual can’t understand that you may not want to see them at any given time .

A good friend is some one who’s loyal to you, who isn’t trying to control you all the time or make unreasonable demands. A true friend is an individual who values yourself esteem and engages with you in positive way.

THERE’S NO LIFE SIYLE IN THIS WAY

-this message is for all the young people of this generation in the days of sugar daddies and sugar mummies vulnerable adolescent boys and girls should be guided to a better future. Every one has the right to decide what he/she want in life. Having said that, I fail to understand this trend of old men dating young girls. If you have an affair with a child young enough to be your daughter or grand daughter , what does your conscience tells you? What does a 16-years-old know about life? Has it ever occurred to you that she might be going through that vulnerable stage called adolescence?

-what example do we set as responsible adults? Should we not concern ourselves with guiding these young girls to wards a better future instead of taking advantage of them?

Please young girls be careful!

NOW YOU CAN LAUGH

- A doctor of psychology was doing his normal morning rounds when he entered a patient’s room he found patient one sitting on the floor pretending to saw a piece of wood in half.

-patient two was hanging by his feet the Doctor asked patient one what he was doing.

The patient replied can’t you see I am sawing this piece of wood in half?

-the Doctor inquired from patient one what patient two was doing patient one replied, ‘’ooh! He is my friend, but he’s a little crazy!! He thinks he’s a light bulb’’(imagine!).

-then a Doctor asks patient one if he’s your friend you should get him down from there before he hurts himself. Patient one replies, what? and work in dark?

CHOOSE FRIENDS WISELY

The people we choose as friends play influential, roles in our lives, which can be good or bad (true), depending on what they are capable of.

Social needs are of great importance in our lives. Life with out friends and associates can be difficult, not to mention stressful and meaningless.

But the type of individuals you have opted to engage with, will bring changes into your life based on their deeds and capabilities( good).

your friend will either bring you down to earth or take you to greater heights choosing a friend is not minor decision they are the people with whom we share our opinions, secrets and dreams,( well).

And can have the ability to influence our expectations either negatively or positively. Choose the type of friend you deserve- ask God to make right choice. (lovely).

CHARACTER OVER YOUR REPUTATION

HERE WE CAN SAY THAT ONE IS SHADOW TO OTHER

-The circumstances in which we live determine our reputation while what we believe

Determines character.

Reputation is what you are supposed to be character comes from without, while —reputation is from within.

-when you came to the new community what you bring along is reputation and when you go away you leave with character.

one is reputation is made in a moment but character is built in life time.]

your reputation is learned in an hour, your character may not come to light for a year.

One DL said: If I take off my character, my reputation will take care itself .(yes)

A good reputation is valuable.

-even the wise man of ancient Israel, King Solomon said a good name is more desirable than great riches, but a good reputation exists because it’s refraction of a person’s character….if a good reputation is like gold, then having integrity is like owning the Mine.

Worry about what others think, and pay attention to your character.(very true) .

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-IF YOU GIVE A MAN A FISH YOU FEED HIM FOR ONE DAY IF YOU TEACH HIM HOW TO FISH, YOU FEED HIM FOR A LIFETIME.

-WTAT’S YOUR MESSAGE TO OTHERS TO DAY?
-WHICH KIND OF FOOD YOU ARE DLIVARING TO DAY?
-SORRY I MEAN SPIRITUAL FOOD.

PRAYER: O GOD WE DO NOT SEE OURSELVES, FOR WE LOOK AT THE SINS THAT OTHERS COMMIT AGAINST YOU.
HELP US TO BE AS HONEST OBOUT OURSELVES AS WE ARE ABOUT OTHERS AND MORE, HELP US TO GIVE GOOD MESSAGE TO OTHERS, TO ENCOURAGE, NOT TO DISCOURAGE, TO BUILD NOT TO DOOM. IN JESUS NAME WE PRAY AMEN.